How to choose your first sex toy?

Are you lost among all these sex toys? Or do you simply want to complete your personal collection? We are here to guide you and help you find the one that best suits your needs.

Let us introduce you to sex toys as a whole to answer your question: how to choose your first sex toy?

• CLITORAL SEXTOY 

The clitoris, the ultimate pleasure organ, is the most sensitive organ in the anatomy. It contains nearly 8,000 sensory receptors! 

Entirely dedicated to pleasure, it is the fastest path to orgasm. 50% of people who own one achieve orgasm primarily through direct stimulation of the clitoral glans. 

There are therefore many sex toys reserved for external stimulation: vibration, suction, flapping... there is something for everyone!

The different types of stimulation:

Did you know that clitoral stimulation can be done in different ways?

• by friction or flapping: with fingers or with sex toys with a silicone tab that moves back and forth
• by pressure: with your fingers or by pressing your sex toy more or less on the area
• by vibration: the most common stimulation, thanks to the majority of our sex toys (vibrators, rabbits, etc.)
• Contactless: revolutionary stimulation that allows you to stimulate the glans of the clitoris without directly touching it, with air movements. Try it and you'll love it!

How to choose your first sex toy? Here are the different types of sex toys for external use:

Having trouble deciding between all the shapes on offer? Let us help! 

• Clitoral pebbles : Generally flat and small, they allow you to discover the world of sex toys. You can place the flat side on the clitoris for diffuse clitoral stimulation or place the edge for precise and intense clitoral stimulation.

• Bullets or clitoral cartridges : Cylindrical and small, these are the most discreet sex toys. Designed for ultra-precise clitoral stimulation, they're a true powerhouse! 

• Wands : Equipped with a handle and a round vibrating head, wand sex toys are mostly large and powerful. They offer a good grip and avoid awkward postures when reaching the clitoris.

• Friction or flapping sex toys : with one or more silicone tabs that rotate or move up and down. Ideal for those who find vibration uncomfortable or for those who have already tried everything.

• Contactless stimulators: These have a hollow tip designed to be placed around the glans of the clitoris. Contactless stimulators are small technological gems that allow you to stimulate the clitoris without directly touching it. They have literally revolutionized pleasure by paving the way for multiple orgasms!

• VAGINAL SEXTOY

Go on an adventure with the internal stimulation of vaginal sex toys.

Vibrating, curved, connected, waterproof, semi-realistic, glass, suction cup, harness... Whatever your desires and expectations, discover these stimulators that will awaken your senses!

Discover the erogenous zones of the vagina to stimulate:

• The G-spot or C-zone: an erogenous zone located about 3 cm from the entrance to the vagina; it is an area particularly sensitive to caresses and penetration. This G-spot, also called the C-zone, corresponds to the point of contact between the internal part of the clitoris and the anterior wall of the vagina (at the front; pubic side and not anus side). However, there is no precise reference point; all women are different. The important thing is to observe the sensations and reactions of your body. 

How to find your G-spot? 

Discovering your G-spot or C-zone can be done alone or with a partner. Take the time for foreplay; it's best to be aroused and well-lubricated. Your clitoris will then be swollen with pleasure, making it easier to find your G-spot. 

Know the ideal position to find your G-spot:

Squatting, on all fours, or lying on your stomach, insert or ask your partner to insert your index finger into your vagina. You will feel a smooth area first, then a ridged area, then a smooth area again. It is at the level of the ridged area that you will need to apply small, intermittent pressure.

• The deep-spot or A-zone: little known, this point or rather this zone is located near the cervix, at the bottom of the vagina. To reach it, deep penetration is necessary. So insert an intimate toy, your fingers, your partner's fingers or his penis as far as possible inside the vagina. By observing the anatomy of the woman, you will see that the cervix sinks slightly into the vagina which creates two indentations that can provide pleasure when reached. The deep spot is therefore composed of two points located on either side of the cervix. We find the "front deep spot" (at the front, closest to the navel) and the "back deep spot" (at the back).

The corresponding sex toys:

• G-spot stimulator sex toys : Because it's a shallow area, G-spot sex toys can be relatively short. Since this area is sensitive to pressure, it's recommended to choose a rigid or semi-rigid sex toy. A toy that's too soft will bend and provide no sensation. These curved sex toys allow you to increase pressure on the affected area with a simple rocking motion.

• Deep-spot or A-spot stimulator sex toys : These are sex toys that are long enough to reach the bottom of the vagina. You can choose toys with tapered, slightly curved ends to easily fit into the deep-spot, or wider sex toys that can dilate the vagina and make it easier to reach the area you want to stimulate. 

• Vaginal Stimulating Sex Toys : Sensitive to friction, textured sex toys are ideal for amplifying stimulation. A toy with a consistent diameter along its entire length will allow for back-and-forth motions and stimulation of the entire length of the vagina.

• Multifunctional sex toys : For even more sensations, discover dual-stimulation toys (clitoral and vaginal combined) and toys that allow stimulation of all three zones at once! Depending on the use, you can stimulate one, two, or three zones at a time.

How to choose between clitoral and vaginal stimulation?

• Is this your first sex toy? We recommend looking for versatile toys that will allow you to explore your body as much as possible and experience as many sensations as possible. You'll then be able to choose the most erogenous area of ​​your body and thus choose the right sex toy to achieve the best orgasms of your life!

• For G-spot stimulation, if you haven't found it yet, choose a curved sex toy with a wide head, which will allow for a larger contact surface with the vaginal wall. You'll have a better chance of reaching orgasm!

• For clitoral stimulation only, all vibrating toys can be placed on the clitoris. (Vibrators, rabbits, etc.)

• For purely vaginal stimulation that best replicates realistic penetration , choose toys with a constant diameter along the entire length, allowing for back-and-forth movements and stimulation of the entire length of the vagina. 

• GEISHA BALLS

Many people have heard of geisha balls. 

Why use them?

Geisha balls are one of the essential sex toys to have at home for guaranteed well-being. 

They will allow rehabilitation and toning of the perineum thanks to the different contractions depending on the weight of each ball, which will increase your sensations and those of your partner. 

We will also notice an increase in natural lubrication thanks to the stimulation of the secretion glands and a prevention of incontinence thanks to the reflex work of the perineum. 

How to use them? 

• Lubricate the geisha balls with a water-based lubricant . 
• Place them gently and as high as possible in the vagina. 
• Practice your usual activities that require movement or Kegel exercises. 
• For optimal effectiveness, wear them several times a week for at least 30 minutes. 
• As with removing a tampon, relax and gently pull the extraction string. 
• Clean them carefully and store them in a dust-free case.

For whom? 

• Beginner: Start gently at home and take the time to get used to this type of toy. 
• Experienced: Use geisha balls at home and outdoors naturally. 
• New mother: Re-educate your perineum with complete peace of mind after giving birth to regain a toned perineum and thus avoid incontinence later on. 

• ANAL SEXTOY

The anal sex toy is a dual-stimulation toy. The pleasure is felt in the anal and perianal areas. Despite many reservations, the pleasure can be very intense in both men and women. Patience and gentleness are required; lubricant and the right sex toy are the foundations of successful anal practices. It's your turn!

What is an anal sex toy?

As its name suggests, the anal sex toy is intended to stimulate the anal area but also the perianal area. 

These toys have a flat base to prevent the sex toy from being absorbed into the rectum during insertion.

What is the purpose of anal stimulation?

To indulge yourself, of course! Alone or accompanied by another type of stimulation, the anal sex toy is there to give you pleasure! It can also be used simply to facilitate the dilation of the sphincters before penetration.

Can we really have fun?

The anal and perianal areas are highly sensitive and can generate enormous pleasure. Patience and gentleness are essential, especially for beginners.

For more details, we can distinguish several zones: perianal, anus, rectal canal and rectum. The anal sex toy will create stimulation on each of these zones, rich in sensory receptors, multiplying the pleasure tenfold. 

It should also be remembered that certain erogenous zones are easier to stimulate in this way.

Specific erogenous zones:

• the prostate or P-spot: the G-spot in men exists but just doesn't have the same name! We talk about the P-spot for prostate point. This small gland is located under the bladder and can be the source of powerful orgasms in men. To properly stimulate this area, choose a penetrating sex toy, fairly short and slightly curved (curving towards the navel). Take the plunge! You'll be surprised by the pleasure you experience. 

• The deep spot or A-spot: a sensitive area at the bottom of the vagina. Because the vagina has very thin walls, anal penetration makes it easy to stimulate the deep spot. Choose a penetrating sex toy that's long enough for maximum pleasure. 

How to choose your first anal sex toy? Here are the different types of anal sex toys:

• Anal plug : The most common anal sex toy, the plug is the ideal toy for getting started with anal practices, whether you are a beginner or experienced. Characterized by its shape, it ensures gradual penetration without the risk of absorption by the rectum. It can also be inserted to facilitate penetration or left in place throughout sexual play for even more pleasure. 

• The rosary or Thai beads : a sex toy made up of a series of connected balls of varying diameters. For guaranteed pleasure, gradually insert each ball and then gently remove them when orgasm begins to occur. Amplified sensations; savor the moment!

• The dildo : The anal dildo is a toy with a flat base, often with a suction cup. This sex toy stimulates the anal area through dilation and friction. Don't hesitate to move it back and forth! 

• the prostate stimulator : a short, curved sex toy that allows you to exert pressure on the prostate and experience new sensations. 

• Strap-on : The strap-on is generally used for dual vaginal stimulation but can also be used for anal stimulation. With or without a harness, the egg is inserted into the vagina of the person wearing it and the dildo is used to penetrate another person. Ultimate comfort for intense shared pleasure!

Know how to use them

• Alone: ​​Choose the anal sex toy of your choice, then gently insert it and succumb to the delights of your imagination. Don't hesitate to also stimulate your penis or clitoris using your hand or a second toy: explosive sensations guaranteed!

• Accompanied: Insert the sex toy yourself or ask your partner, then let yourself be carried away by the pleasure of sexual play and the stimulation of other erogenous zones for even more heated moments. For more pleasure, wear the anal sex toy during penetration and spice up the moment by letting your partner take the controls remotely thanks to our connected and remote-controlled dildos!

Is lubricant mandatory?

Nothing is mandatory, but the use of a lubricant is strongly recommended to ensure optimal comfort and smooth insertion. It is important to remember that the anus does not lubricate itself: facilitating penetration with the help of a suitable product helps protect the anal mucous membranes throughout the stimulation. 

• PENIS SEXTOY

The penis is an essential organ of pleasure, but often forgotten when it comes to sex toys. 

Here are our recommendations for discovering new ways to stimulate your penis and experience pleasure: through pressure, vibrations or waves... awaken your sensations! 

How to choose your first sex toy to stimulate your penis?

• Masturbators and penis sleeves : with or without contact; new and intense sensations guaranteed for successful masturbation
• Cock rings : how to make the pleasure last during sex
• Wands: for vibration from head to toe! (from glans to penis)

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What to remember

How to get started with your first sex toy?

Purchasing your first sex toy is an exciting step. However, knowing how to use it properly is essential to maximize pleasure. First, take the time to familiarize yourself with your toy by exploring its various features. Also, always start with a low intensity before gradually increasing. Additionally, using a compatible lubricant is highly recommended for optimal comfort.

So, for a successful first experience, it's best to choose a time when you're relaxed and comfortable. In fact, a conducive atmosphere, such as dim lighting and a relaxing ambiance, can make the experience even more enjoyable. Finally, don't hesitate to experiment and listen to your body to discover what gives you the most pleasure.

The importance of cleaning and maintenance

After each use, it's crucial to properly maintain your sex toy. Proper cleaning ensures optimal hygiene and extends the product's lifespan. To do this, use a mild soap or a sex toy cleaner. Then, rinse thoroughly with warm water and let it air dry.

Additionally, remember to store your sex toy in a clean case to prevent it from accumulating dust. Also, if your toy is rechargeable, make sure to maintain a sufficient battery level to avoid any unpleasant surprises. Finally, adopting these good habits will allow you to fully enjoy your sex toy in complete safety and peace of mind.

Conclusion – A first step towards more pleasure

Choosing and using your first sex toy can be a rewarding experience. However , it's important to take the time to explore your sensations and adapt to this new accessory. A gradual and well-informed approach guarantees optimal pleasure. Additionally, by following a few precautions, such as choosing the right lubricant and regular maintenance, you'll be able to fully enjoy your sex toy.

In short, embarking on the world of sex toys is a journey that can transform your intimate well-being. That's why we encourage you to experiment with confidence and listen to your body. Finally, don't hesitate to explore different options to find what works best for you. After all, pleasure is a discovery that builds over time.

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